#MondayMusings : Lessons from moving
Life is a journey and we often find ourselves moving from one place to the other during the course of our lives. That is how life is. It goes on. Travellers that we are on life’s journey, we keep moving and in the process accumulating a lot of things. We accumulate friends, experiences and other objects. Friends give us memories. Experiences teach us lessons and the list goes on. We have to keep moving otherwise life gets ahead of us. So a few days ago when I moved from a Paying guest accommodation to an apartment, that experience did teach me a few things.
When I had decided to move after two long years of staying in the same PG, I was pretty certain that I didn’t have much to pack. Wrong. When I had first arrived in Bangalore, all I came with were three bags- one for clothes, one for books and the other one full of eatables that mom had packed for me because it was the first time her darling daughter was living away from home and apart from safety, food was the main worry she had. Okay, all those things apart, I thought that I wouldn’t take much time to pack and so decided to pack on the exact same day I moved! Wrong again. I decided to pack on the day of moving. Wrong choice!
When the day finally arrived I ran around frantically pulling all my stuff out and putting it all in the bags that I had. One of my friends had tried knocking some sense to me and had given me a box to pack all of my stuff. Slowly I started filling one bag after the other. But the more things I kept packing into my bags and boxes, it appeared that there were more things to pack! I needed Monica’s help (Monica from F.R.I.E.N.D.S. )I had already separated out the clothes that I would donate. I had decided on all the things that I would get rid off. But what I did not realize that I owned a lot more than I thought I did. Trust me I am not a hoarder. I wouldn’t keep two of a certain if I knew that I would need only one. I had forgotten that I had owned certain things. But that isn’t the only bad part. I sat down, looking at all the stuff I owned and kept remembering the memories associated with each. There was none to disturb me, hence I sat down there looking at all the things.
Time passed by and I didn’t realize until my landlady called me to ask if I was ready to vacate the room. It was then that I realized I had a lot of choices to make. I couldn’t take it all. But I couldn’t let go. So I kept picking up one thing at a time and deciding what I wanted to do with it. Finally after a lot of difficult decisions and a back pain, I was done. All of my things were filled and I had more bags to carry than I thought I would. But that wasn’t all. I had put away more thrash than I thought I would. The common area in my PG was filled with all of my stuff.
I realized that sometimes we accumulate things that we don’t know that we are accumulating. There comes a day when we realize that we have a lot of things that we don’t remember owning which means that we don’t need.But we may still want to hold on to those things. But if we did, it would be of no use. It would only take up space and not serve any purpose thus leaving less space for the new things that we might need.
Along with the friends, experiences and other things that we accumulate, we also accumulate a lot of negative emotions, negative thoughts and bad habits. Some times we don’t know we have them. But when they resurface, instead of forgetting and getting over with them, we choose to hold on. The negativity doesn’t serve any purpose. It just keeps occupying a part of our mind and doesn’t let us progress. It may take time. But we have to sit down, make a choice and make peace with the choice we make. It is your choice to hold on or let go. But you can’t choose not to bear the consequences of the choice. So do you want to hold on or let go? You have a choice to make!
There is still one question that keeps nagging me. How did all of that stuff fit in in that tiny room of mine? I don’t know! May be sometimes we have more space than we think we have. Like I always have space for dessert in my tummy 😛
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