#AtoZChallenge : No
I made a list of resolutions I need to stick to.
- Eating healthy
- Spend less money
- Not saying “Yes” to everything
Forget the first two things on that list, if I’d follow the third one then first two would also sorted. But who am I kidding?
“Here are some chocolates. Take as many as you like.”
I run as fast I can and grab as many as I can!
“Alana, here have another piece of the sweet that you liked”
“Yes please” That is my answer.
“Hey Alana, there is a sale in that store- lot of amazing stuff. Shall we go this evening?”
“Yes, yes, yes” This what I say.
Ideally in all these situations my response should have been “No!”.
Saying no is difficult. Sometimes the temptation (or most of the time) is too hard to resist. Sometimes we don’t say no for the fear of missing out- what if my friends think of me as a spoilsport, what if I don’t look cool, what if I miss a great deal. The what ifs just never end. Sometimes it is hard to say no because you want to be nice and don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings. The most scariest of all is when you can’t say no because you are afraid of the consequences that will follow after you said no!
I sit down to analyze about all the times I should have said no but then I didn’t. A lot of times!
As I’m lost in world of counting my “Yes” and “No”, my friend comes to me.
“I finally did it”, she says.
“I finally said No”
There was this friend of hers, a guy. She had been nice to him just as she would be nice to any other friend of hers. But he thought she had feelings for him. He’d asked her out on a date and she definitely didn’t want to go. But she didn’t know how to say “No” because she didn’t want to lose a friend. But saying yes would only encourage him and it would get her into a really difficult situation. Honesty is the best policy!
I’d talked some sense into her yesterday and now finally she had told him “No”
“That is wonderful! It is good that you said “No” “
“Yes, all thanks to you Alana. Come on, let us go out and eat some ice cream. Its my treat!”
That was what I was supposed to say. But do you really think I’d say that? Say no to Ice cream?
“Wow! Lovely! Come lets go out for ice cream” I jumped and clapped with glee like a little kid!
I’m participating in the A to Z Challenge and all through April I’ll be writing about the Life and Times of a Twenty something! What are you best memories or expectations from your twenties? Let me know in the comments.