#AtoZChallenge : We don’t talk anymore
Facebook reminds me that it has been 7 years since we’ve been friends or more like friends on Facebook. Yes, we became friends long before we became Facebook friends. And now we are just Facebook friends. It is sad how times have changed.
I look at all the pictures of us over the years that Facebook has picked up for the video. Those first days of college, the birthdays that we celebrated, the events that we won, the pictures of us dressed in our ethnic best and the best one of the lot – that candid picture of all of us laughing so hard that we had to hold your stomachs to stop it from hurting. Those days were indeed the best. A lone tear falls down my eye as I look at all the pictures. I’m tempted to share the video but then I stop myself. May be you wouldn’t care or may be you’d be annoyed looking at a notification from me. But a little voice within me slowly whispers, may be you would go back and think about those times just like I did. Yet I’m afraid and I don’t post. I don’t make things messier.
But what really happened? Why did we drift apart? Was it the distance? Was it time? Or was it priorities? Was it something else?
Do you remember those times when we didn’t have cellphones of our own and we used the landline phones when our parents weren’t around to talk to each other? Those times when we had exams but we spoke about everything under the sun except for anything to do with our exams? May be that was our way of keeping calm during those stressful days. We promised each other that we’d be best friends forever- that the sketch you’d made of a wedding gown would be my wedding gown when I get married and that I would continue writing poems for you. Even in the classrooms, we’d find places in the last benches and make sure that our talks or note passing went on uninterrupted.
I still can’t figure out why it happened. But suddenly we seemed distant. You didn’t know what was happening in my life and I didn’t know what was happening in yours. If we made an attempt at texting each other, the messages would more or less always be the same.
“How are you?”
“I’m fine. How are you?”
“I’m fine”
“Okay. I got to go now. Bye”
“Okay bye”
But were you really okay? Was I really okay? Earlier we’d just know. But now things have changed.
Maybe life is like this. People come into our lives and go away. But I always thought you’d stay. Best friends forever. But sadly forever didn’t last long as it should have. It has been so long since we even called or texted each other. Meeting each other is a far fetched dream. I miss you! It hurts me that we don’t talk anymore.
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I’m participating in the A to Z Challenge and all through April I’ll be writing about the Life and Times of a Twenty something! What are you best memories or expectations from your twenties? Let me know in the comments.
I can relate to that… Sometimes life takes over and unknowingly you drift apart. Probably reaching out again would help in mending the bond
Go ahead and make that call, I’d say. You’ll now where the friendship stands either way!:)
I can relate to that. Nothing seems amiss till it is a bit too late and then both are hesitant wondering where do they stand in each other’s life. Such is life. You can try and relive a memory but it will never be the same again.
Wonderful
Oh, that’s sad… that did happen to me, somehow one of my very best friends slipped away when we were older teenagers – we each had boyfriends without mutual connections and then we went away on further education and in those days it was harder to keep in touch. (I am much older than you!) then my friend emigrated a very long way away and I lost touch altogether – but then, many, many year later on Facebook I found her, and contacted her, and we shared our memories, and she asked me for photos, and gave me some of hers, and we have a companionable Facebook friendship now. Do contact her – you were so close – she can only do one of two things, ignore you, you won’t be any worse off, or reply with happiness, which will feel great!
W is for Madam C. J. Walker, First Female Self-Made Millionaire in U.S., #AtoZ Challenge
I can totally relate to this post. Sometimes letting go is the best thing we can do. Been there, done that. People change over a period of time and then nothing remains the same.
Oh my God! This is so touching, Reema! I think it happens with most of us. We miss out people whom we never thought we ever would! Sadly, that is what is the reality in most of our lives! I too had a friend, who was really close to me, but not anymore! 🙁
Cheers
BoisterousBee
I can relate to that. Friends who we thought we would have forever fading away, either due to time and distance, or simply indifference. That’s life I guess!
Sigh, that’s the harsh reality of life. People come and go. The important ones stay.
Honestly, Social Media has made it difficult to maintain true friendships these days.
Like those above me, I too have lost many a friend this way. And I am the guilty party for reasons best left unexplored for now 🙁
Choices we make.
White House of Anaheim: A Tale of Kindness and Karma
It has happened to me too buddy and I can really understand how it feels. I have even tried to break ice but have not been sure if the feelings are the same at the moment in the other side too.
Sadly, I can relate to this. Few friends with whom I lost touch over the time. Even when I did try to reach out, it didn’t feel the same. Sigh!
well, most of readers will relate to this story, in this blind race of life, this is what happening with our relations…
A thought provoking post…….
I’ve seen this happen more than once. I guess its a part of growing up. People come and go. Memories remain. Cherish them. 🙂
Its sad when this happens. Clearly there’s still some feeling for the friend, else tears would not be shed. But yes, life’s like that.
Xenophobia #Lexicon of Leaving
This post resonates with me on the joy of friendship, memories and drifting apart. Sad how situations create a distance among friends swearing to each other and affirming loyalty. Lucky that there are some who stood thick and think while others have rubbed the existence. I shall always wish them awesome things. Perhaps, time heals.