#AtoZChallenge :Dear Future Husband
I looked at myself in the mirror and I liked the way I looked. In fact, for a moment I couldn’t believe that it was my reflection in the mirror. The gown was a beautiful one and it suited me well. I got into the nicely decorated car and we drove to the church.
That is what you want to say right? Because you thought that I was getting married? But tell me did I mention anything about me getting married? No!
And that is the problem.
I don’t know what it is about being a 20 something and getting married, especially if you are an Indian girl. It is like your life is charted out from the time you were born, age is not just a number here my friend. Finish college by 21 or 22 and then get a job. But yeah when you are planning how to live life on your terms, there are terms and conditions that are made which you can’t easily break, because there are emotions that are at an all time high and your ability to respect elders is questioned. Everyone just wants you to get married as soon as possible! Why the hurry? I have no clue!
The scenario that I mentioned earlier was that of me being the maid of honour for my cousin on her wedding. I was happy when she asked me to be her maid of honour. I’d get to wear a pretty dress and get a little dolled up. I could have a new profile picture! So many perks of being the maid of honour! But after the wedding I was really annoyed! How I wish I wouldn’t get so much attention.
If the comments that “You are next, you are next” aren’t enough, then there are random people coming and talking to your mom telling her that their blah blah blah’s blah blah blah is of marriageable age (I don’t know what that is) and it would be a good match because the guy apparently is well settled. And if they don’t personally know you then inquiries are made.
“Who was the girl who was the maid of honour? What does she do?”
None of your business I say!
More questions follow.
Do you know to cook?
Are the rotis you make perfect ciricles?
Can you manage all the household chores?
The list goes on forever!
But dear future husband, if you are reading this then let me tell you something. Yes, I know how to cook but not like the master chef that you expect me to be. My rotis may not be perfect circles and there will be times when I put salt instead of sugar. I am not an expert in cooking. Just like you I too spent hours studying for various exams and then making a career. Just like you, I too have dreams, dreams to make it big in life. Do not expect me to manage all the household chores myself because just like you even I have a job to do, a career to make. But that doesn’t mean I am some career minded person who does not care about her family. I do! But to strike that perfect balance isn’t easy and hence I will definitely need your support. And most importantly I want to get married when I wish to, when I feel like I’m ready. I do not want to get married just because I am of a certain age. I still have a lot of dreams to turn to reality!
Dear Future Husband, are you listening? May be Meghan Trainor will tell it to you better 😉
I’m participating in the #AtoZChallenge . Join me as I write about the Life and times of a Twenty something.