#AtoZChallenge : Thinking out loud

And thinking out loud

“Mom, my friend is getting married next month. Shall I wear that pink saree for her wedding?”
“Forget about the saree. First tell me when will you get married?”
“What is the hurry Mom? I’ve just started my career. Give me some time.”
“Aren’t your friends also of your age? Aren’t they getting married?”
“Yes. But I don’t want to get married now.”
“Look Alana, I’m tired of telling you. Its time you realize such things on your own” and she hangs up the phone.
Not a good start to the week. Mondays are difficult because of the Monday morning blues and now this argument doesn’t make it any better. Why did I even mention to my mom that my friend was getting married? I know how such conversations had ended before. I must be more careful hereafter.
I really don’t understand what the hurry is all about. No, I’m not against the idea of getting married. I’d love to find that special someone who would be there for me in good times and in bad. Even after I’ve found that special someone, I need some time before getting married. But why doesn’t Mom understand that?
She keeps telling I can’t wait forever to find someone right. The more I delay getting married, the fewer are my chances of finding my soul mate it seems. Why? How? I don’t know.
Now that she keeps telling me about this, I wonder if I will ever find someone who will love and accept me the way I am. Will he accept my faults and failings and yeah not to forget, my craziness ? Will he support and encourage me to follow my dreams? Will he love me always? Or are my expectations too high?
I don’t want to meet a guy with the intention of getting married. I want to meet someone, be friends and maybe then we’ll fall in love.
“But will I ever find the love of my life?”
“You will if you go out and find someone instead of sitting with those books all day!”, says my friend.
Oops! I didn’t realize that I was thinking out loud!
I’m participating in the A to Z Challenge and all through April I’ll be writing about the Life and Times of a Twenty something! What are you best memories or expectations from your twenties? Let me know in the comments.
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13 responses to “#AtoZChallenge : Thinking out loud”

  1. Shailaja V says:

    Must be tough to be 20-something, have all these dreams in your head and also feel the pressure of getting married, isn’t it? I guess for many of us, marriage just happened. But it’s definitely something a lot of people think long and hard about these days which is for the best, really. Shouldn’t enter lightly into a possible life-long commitment.

  2. swathishenoy says:

    Argh! How I hate that marriage talk. I hear you Alana, I do!

  3. vinodinii says:

    Well, I kind of succumbed to the pressure you’re talking about here quite easily. Imagine getting married at 20. Well, I did that and how I wish I had been a little adamant at that time. I’d have done so many more things in those prime years.

  4. Alana definitely needs to stand her ground on this one – there’s no rush and these decisions shouldn’t be forced…

  5. Just the right viewpoint. Take your time and find that special someone. Marriage is beautiful when you find the right partner.

  6. upasna1987 says:

    Its not easy to meet someone just with the intention to get married. You are right. Alana should avoid such situations.

  7. Rajlakshmi says:

    Ahh That phase when parents for some reason refuse to even understand your ambitions … I hope Alana finds the right guy for herself.

  8. I feel girls should really take their time become independent in life and then get married..Let there be an identity for themselves fulfill their ambitions and then find the right guy who supports them

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  9. Neha says:

    Most of the things I wanted to say are already said by others in comments 😀 but yeah, take time, travel a lot, meet interesting people, discuss marriage with friends and same aged people and do be open and get out
    Tender Love

  10. Liz Brownlee says:

    Aaah, mums, eh? My daughter is 29. But she has found the love of her life! I try not to mention the ‘M’ word…

    T is for Sister Rosetta Tharpe #A-Z Blog Challenge

  11. Hahaha, moms! 🙂

    Don’t marry for the sake of marriage. I planned to get married at 30. Then I found the the love of my love and it felt so perfect. I got married at 26! And I couldn’t be more happier.

    It’s not about the time, it’s about the person 🙂

  12. I liked how you ended it! Thinking out loud 🙂

  13. True, this happens to every girl as she reaches her tewnties, You will be just startingout getting ambitious and the world around you will be looking at you as a wifey material.. nice thoughts

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