#AtoZChallenge : No

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I made a list of resolutions I need to stick to.
  1. Eating healthy
  2. Spend less money
  3. Not saying “Yes” to everything

 

Forget the first two things on that list, if I’d follow the third one then first two would also sorted. But who am I kidding?

 

“Here are some chocolates. Take as many as you like.”
I run as fast I can and grab as many as I can!

 

“Alana, here have another piece of the sweet that you liked”
“Yes please” That is my answer.

 

“Hey Alana, there is a sale in that store- lot of amazing stuff. Shall we go this evening?”
“Yes, yes, yes” This what I say.

 

Ideally in all these situations my response should have been “No!”.

 

Saying no is difficult. Sometimes the temptation (or most of the time) is too hard to resist. Sometimes we don’t say no for the fear of missing out- what if my friends think of me as a spoilsport, what if I don’t look cool, what if I miss a great deal. The what ifs just never end. Sometimes it is hard to say no because you want to be nice and don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings. The most scariest of all is when you can’t say no because you are afraid of the consequences that will follow after you said no!

 

I sit down to analyze about all the times I should have said no but then I didn’t. A lot of times!

 

As I’m lost in world of counting my “Yes” and “No”, my friend comes to me.

 

“I finally did it”, she says.
“Did what?”
“I finally said No”

 

There was this friend of hers, a guy. She had been nice to him just as she would be nice to any other friend of hers. But he thought she had feelings for him. He’d asked her out on a date and she definitely didn’t want to go. But she didn’t know how to say “No” because she didn’t want to lose a friend. But saying yes would only encourage him and it would get her into a really difficult situation. Honesty is the best policy!

 

I’d talked some sense into her yesterday and now finally she had told him “No”
“That is wonderful! It is good that you said “No” “
“Yes, all thanks to you Alana. Come on, let us go out and eat some ice cream. Its my treat!”
“No thanks”

 

That was what I was supposed to say. But do you really think I’d say that? Say no to Ice cream?

 

“Wow! Lovely! Come lets go out for ice cream” I jumped and clapped with glee like a little kid!

 

I’m participating in the A to Z Challenge and all through April I’ll be writing about the Life and Times of a Twenty something! What are you best memories or expectations from your twenties? Let me know in the comments.

 

18 responses to “#AtoZChallenge : No”

  1. hahaaa…well said!!! Indeed, saying ‘NO’ is the hardest! and it IS the simplest solutions to most (all?) of our problems!
    so true!
    Ishieta @ Isheeria’s

  2. Modern Gypsy says:

    hahha! I hear ya! Saying no can be really hard, especially when ice cream, chocolate or shopping is involved 🙂

  3. Pradeep k says:

    Yeah…It s true…It s so hard to say “No”to my friends and family.I would like to practice to say ‘No’ from Now…

  4. Haha, looks like this is a common theme this year for this letter. Just read another post about No. Guess we all have trouble saying it then, huh?

  5. Hehe, so true for me too especially on the first two points and the third I am already pathetic on. You are so right in pointing out if we correct the thief the first two will already fall in place

  6. vinodinii says:

    I’ve written on the same topic today. Saying yes to thing we need to say no to, continues way beyond your 20s. And yes, if it is for something as tempting as chocolates, icecream and discount sales, I’m equally bad at saying no to them. 😉

  7. vinodinii says:

    I have written on the same topic today. Saying yes to the things that we need to say no to continues way beyond our 20s. And if it is about saying no to chocolates, icecream and discount sales, I’m equally bad at it! 😉

  8. upasna1987 says:

    Sometimes, a No saves us from all the headache afterwards. We need to analyze the situation and weigh our answer bu we have only few seconds to answer 😉

  9. Suzy says:

    Hard to say No to icecream. But now and then a little indulgence is necessary – and that’s my post for N

    Suzy at Someday Somewhere – Now and then …

  10. AN says:

    Common problem! Saying no should be easy and obvious, yet we don’t

    I wrote about N for New.. do stop by
    https://archanablogs.wordpress.com/2017/04/17/n-is-for-the-new

  11. I am learning to say ‘No’ even to chocolates and ice-creams:) and love how I feel after saying it:)

  12. Neha says:

    haha.. No is definitely something that isn’t easy rolling off anyone’s tongue. This seems to be a common problem and root cuse of many tiffs 😛
    Nasty

  13. Shilpa Garg says:

    Oh yes, saying ‘No’ does not come easily to us. But when you learn to do that you will be stress-free and also you will be honest and true to yourself.

  14. inquisitivegeet says:

    I need to work on the third point as well…. I say yes to lot of things that do not help in any way. While, doing it occasionally does no harm but when it becomes a part of life, it ends up harming the person!

    Cheers
    BoisterousBee

  15. Learning to say “No” is very difficult but that is a trait everyone must have. I’m glad you are getting there 🙂

  16. Anmol Rawat says:

    I was reading Vinodini’s post before reading yours. Yes, it’s essential! I face the same problem. Can’t seem to say no to anybody and then people take advantage :/ I guess it’s high time I also learn to say No. In fact, I just said my first no to a friend. She remembers calling me whenever she needs any favor. I just said no this time :p You guys have inspired me. Not sure how long that will last though :p

  17. swathishenoy says:

    Lol 😀 saying no is really difficult, isn’t it? But that is all I am doing from the last 2 months. No to everything until I lose weight 😛

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