#AtoZChallenge : E(X)es and Ohs

relationships broken

“I still miss him, Alana”
“Whom?”, I almost screamed.
“My ex-boyfriend”, replied my friend.
“But it has been over a year now. Haven’t you still gotten over him?”
“Its hard.”
“I know that it is hard. But didn’t you tell me that it was for the best that you were breaking up?”
“I did. But no matter what I said, I still miss him”
“But why do you miss him? He was really rude to you and he didn’t trust you! It is time you get over him.”
“I did something stupid”, she whispers.
“What? Don’t tell me that you want to get back with him.”
“That I’m not really sure about. I texted him and asked him to meet me”
“Did he reply?”
“No he hasn’t. But I know that he will.”
“Even if he replies you aren’t going to meet him. I won’t let you go.”
“Alana, its my life and I can make my own decisions.”
“Okay fine” and I walk out from the room. So much for trying to help.
I understand that it must be hard for her but did she not break up because things weren’t working out smoothly for them? And I know that it has hurt her. But maybe some relationships don’t work out the way they should. Heartbreaks though very hurtful, teach us a lot. Maybe it makes us stronger and prepared for a better relationship.
Yes, the mind dwells on the past and thinks about all the happy moments and the beautiful memories. And then arrives the pain – pain that hurts you and doesn’t let you appreciate all the things that have gone well for you. Thinking about the past, about what could have been,  only puts you in a state of deep sorrow. You can’t change the past. And with relationships, if it didn’t work well once, it is highly unlikely that it will succeed again. Sometimes letting go is the best thing that you can do.
I go back to the room and I find her crying.
“What happened?”, I ask.
Between sobs and sniffles she manages to say that he replied.
“What did he say?”
She shows me her phone. There are just three words.
“Who is this?”
I want to give her a big lecture about what I had told her earlier. But I know that she’ll only cry more if I do that. Instead, I gave her a tight hug and told her that it is going to be okay.
I’m participating in the A to Z Challenge and all through April I’ll be writing about the Life and Times of a Twenty something! What are you best memories or expectations from your twenties? Let me know in the comments.
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10 responses to “#AtoZChallenge : E(X)es and Ohs”

  1. I have become the bad guy for giving the right advice many times too:)))

  2. Kalpanaa says:

    Oh my god! He actually texted back to say Who is this? Nasty fella. Just as well she’s rid of him.

    Xenophobia #Lexicon of Leaving

  3. Ohhhhh 🙁 This was sad. Yeah, no point saying I told you so, a hug is always better.

  4. Even if your friend feels bad momentarily, glad you gave her the right advice. I do the same always.

  5. Thats the best advice you could give as a friend and the song was just perrrfectttt!!!! I somehow sensed it would be about exe’s and the song could be this 🙂
    This 20 something would make for a perfect E-Book Reema!!! Loads of love
    Happy blogging 🙂
    I am Sneha from Life as a Potpourri
    ~~ gal from the island ~~

  6. you did the right thing. While you telegraphed what was about to happen, an ‘i told you so’ is never the right answer to someone who is hurting.

    ‘Love,XYZ’ – Compassion From Strangers

  7. A warm hug and an understanding heart are the best medicine you could give your friend.

  8. ANITA says:

    Time is the greatest healer. All will be well 🙂

  9. Oh he’s an asshole alright. Getting over a heartbreak is one of the toughest things ever. But whatever happens, happens for the best. You should just give it some time and move on. I hope your friend does that too.

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